When you work with a coach, the first thing they will establish is their role as a coach and your role as a coachee.
While coaches are responsible for providing guidance, unbiased feedback and tools to facilitate the coachee's growth, it is the coachee's responsibility to take the needed actions to achieve a particular goal or overcome a challenge. Coaches will often make it clear that coachees are responsible and accountable for the outcome or results they want to achieve.
Thus, the first step to successful self-coaching is to take 100% responsibility for your life.
"The moment I take responsibility for everything in my life is the moment I gain power to change anything in my life." - Hal Elrod
Taking responsibility for your life means you are in charge of all the results you produce.
Taking the steps to be responsible for your life is not easy. It's changing the way you think, and changing your thinking is just like implementing a new habit; it requires consistent and persistent practice. To do so, we have to be attentive to our thoughts and must consciously stop blaming others, complaining and making excuses for our failures.
Practising and mastering taking responsibility for your life is absolutely necessary to succeed in self-coaching.
"The principle of taking 100% responsibility for your life is not something you learn about once and it is solved for the rest of your life. It is more like staying fit. Every day you have to pay attention. Every day you can ask yourself, Did I blame anyone today? Did I complain today, instead of taking action to change the situation? Did I make excuses today when I did not get the results I wanted or that I had promised?"
When you fully realize that you - not your circumstances or other people - are responsible for your success, how you view life will dramatically shift. You reclaim power over your life when you acknowledge that you have a choice in your actions, thoughts, beliefs and reactions.