Self-coaching requires a lot of experimentation, learning and pivoting.
There are many ways to achieve your goals. What works for one person may not work for you. That's why trying different ways to move towards your goal or overcoming a challenge is important.
Failures can happen in your self-coaching journey. Don't let it dissuade you from your path.
Here are three simple ways I have personally used to overcome roadblocks on my path to achieving a goal:
#1: Anticipate failure.
Prepare yourself and anticipate that failure CAN happen, and that's ok. Use it as a way to learn from your experience and do better. Failure is part of the process. If you learn from the experience, you haven't failed. As Edison once said, "I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work."
#2: Be curious.
When you face failure, question it:
- Why did this fail?
- What can I learn from this experience?
- What can I do better to help me achieve my goals?
Avoid using the word "failure" and always refer to it as "roadblocks" or "learnings". I consciously use these words whenever I talk or think about a failure I have experienced. I avoid the word "failure" like a plague.
Experiment with these methods and see if they will work for you.
"If the plan doesn't work, change the plan but never the goal" - unknown